The Only In/Out List You Need for 2025
By Stella Violet
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Welcome back to my second annual, most controversial and comprehensive “in’s and out’s” list for 2025.
When I started posting these back in 2023, I received a heap of replies and lost a few mutuals in the process, but nevertheless I must stay true to my heart.
As always, this is just my opinion, and if you don’t like it, oh well.
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IN: Maximalist/Eclectic Living
I’ve always hated the “clean girl aesthetic” and this new year is no exception. Keeping your space and fashion sense unique and authentic is rare, with people constantly trying to curate every piece to perfection.
If you ask me, it’s so lame.
I love going to the thrift store and picking out what speaks to me or going based off of what mood I’m in during that season of my life and rolling with it. And, if I see a trend I like, sure I might make it my own, but you’ll never catch me dead in the “viral” target faux coat.
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OUT: Letting Men Ruin Everything
This is self explanatory, but I’ll elaborate for dramatic effect.
Whether it’s your boyfriend, situationship, or just some guy you met at the bar, we’ve got to stand up for ourselves ladies. You don’t owe any of these men anything, and if they aren’t worshipping the ground you walk on, get away from them.
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IN: Driving in your Friend’s Convertible
This is like my holy grail, and my prayers were answered recently when my friend called me and told me that her boyfriend got a convertible.
I just keep imagining wearing a silk scarf, windows down, with my best friends blasting some music we all listened to in 2019.
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OUT: Monetizing Media Trends
First off, it was a ‘Brat’ year, and that album did go triple platinum in my car. However, once businesses started capitalizing off of the album, I started to lose interest.
This is a similar take I have to “Not Like Us” by Kendrick Lamar, because I loved the song when it first came out (and I’m a diehard Kendrick fan), but I am so sick of hearing that song on the radio, at the mall, or any coffee shop I step foot in.
Again, no shade to the artists, but shade to all of these corporations trying to monetize off of someone else's art to the point where it ruins it for the listeners.
IN: Cigarette Holders
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I don’t condone cigarettes, nor am I a frequent smoker, but every now and then when I’m out I will take someone up on their cigarette offer.
Is it a little extra? Yes, that’s exactly the point. Everytime I’m out and I’m offered a cigarette I wish I could just pull out something like this to smoke it with.
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OUT: TV Show and Movie Revivals
I’ll be the one to say it, Hollywood needs to be more original.
This is not to say that all of these biopics and revivals are inherently “bad” but I guess I just want to see this “revival” era come to a close in 2025.
Let’s maybe go pick up a few books, write some screenplays and stay as far away from dead celebrities and old TV shows from the 90s and 00s as we can.
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IN: Vaudevillian Fashion
Something I’d love to see and have begun to see, especially with Chappell Roan’s SNL look is the revival of vaudevillian fashion.
Think A Fever You Can’t Sweat Out by Panic! At the Disco or just a more delicate and theatrical take on circus attire. I think with a lot of pop-punk revival tours from bands like My Chemical Romance, Pierce the Veil and Fall Out Boy we will be seeing a lot more vaudeville looks.
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OUT: Pretentious Attitudes
Let’s just let it go.
Lately when I’ve been out at the bars I’ll come across the most pretentious people asking about my taste in music or movies and if I dare say anything remotely popular, I’m exiled from the conversation.
Maybe we could all just loosen up a little bit and enjoy the little things in life rather than feeling the need to analyze every piece of media and critique it to death.
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IN: Soirées and Dinner Parties
What could be more fun than getting together with your friends, dressing up and drinking homemade cocktails?
Literally nothing.
As of recently, I’ve grown fond of coming together to share some champagne and stories over a candlelit table in the comfort of my friend’s well-decorated home. If you haven’t hosted a dinner party or attended one recently, you’re missing out.
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OUT: The Red Scare Podcast
Dasha, you had so much potential, but time and time again you just gross me out. If you’re still listening to the Red Scare podcast in 2024-2025, stay far away from me.
They both want to be different so badly, but—honestly and factually—you’re both just racist and not funny in the slightest.
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IN: Mormon Reality Shows
Yes, I’m looking at you, Lisa Barlow!
As I get older, I get my mom’s taste in television more and more. If you’re not watching The Real Housewives of Salt Lake City this season, you are missing out.
Beyond the typical stereotypes that all these women do is fight, they also have so much love for eachother and teach the audience what it means to have women friendships in adulthood.
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OUT: Rage Bait as Entertainment
Whether you deem the uprising of TikTok live as entertaining or not, you have to know that most of it is rage bait and frankly, it’s embarrassing and unoriginal.
Obviously I can scroll away and not participate, but it’s the fact that regardless of my doing, these “influencers” are beginning to gain an audience and earn money from lying or purposefully putting themselves and their families in horrible situations.
I’m looking at you, Ash Trevino.
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Rapid Fire List
INS: Unique hair accessories, pink, buying flowers for the hell of it, temporary tattoos, manifesting, label whoring, subtweeting, jazz music, low-budget movies, hair rollers, being as authentic as humanly possible.
OUTS: Raya, paying for drinks, hating on popular things, sassy men, bad breath, target faux fur coats, neon bedroom signs, competitive friends.
Cheers to the new year and may all your dreams come true, you all are sexy and fun! Take advantage of it!
